Is There Still a Case to be Made for Marriage in the USA?

June 22nd, 2010 by azweddingpastors Leave a reply »

The June 11, 2010 edition of Newsweek contained an article titled, “I Don’t: The Case Against Marriage”. [i] It was written by two women who argued that the reasons that once tied women to men in the legal constraints known as marriage are no longer sufficient motivations to enter into this life-altering commitment.

“Once upon a time, marriage made sense. It was how women ensured their financial security, got the fathers of their children to stick around, and gained access to a host of legal rights. But 40 years after the feminist movement established our rights in the workplace, a generation after the divorce rate peaked, and a decade after Sex and the City made singledom chic, marriage is—from a legal and practical standpoint, anyway—no longer necessary.” [ii]

While that rhetoric might appeal to cynical individuals whose hearts were broken by absent parents or whose lives were shredded by painful divorces, the fact remains that married people, on the whole, live longer, are healthier, enjoy greater financial prosperity than their single counter-parts and enjoy a more satisfying sex life.[iii]

Dennis Prager asks and answers some important questions regarding marriage in a brief video posted and accessible to anyone with an internet connection at Prager University.[iv]

  • Do you want to share your life with someone?
  • Do you want become a deeper, more mature individual?
  • But a marriage license is just a piece of paper!

I hope you’ll take the time to visit Prager University to hear his well reasoned responses. He argues skillfully that marriage is not only necessary for society but that it’s the most beneficial living arrangement for men and women in regard to the depth of personal growth individuals can experience.

One of the many responses to the Newsweek piece was by the directors of an organization called Family Bridges. They wrote: “I’ve heard cynical comments about marriage being just a piece of paper. However, history and experience show that some papers (such as the Constitution) are timeless, priceless, and capable of providing an irreplaceable foundation for creation of stability, deep meaning, and greatness.”[v]

My heart goes out to those who’ve been hurt by marriages that went wrong. We can’t allow pain and cynicism, however, to keep us from upholding marriage between a man and a woman as the most life-giving relationship on the planet. While there are no perfect relationships in this broken world, those who give priority to establishing and maintaining a healthy marriage will reap the benefits all of their lives!

If you’re considering marriage and want to make sure you have the tools to build a solid foundation, the Arizona Wedding Pastors can help you with customized premarital counseling. If your marriage is struggling and you’d like some support, we can assist you with that through marriage counseling. Give us a chance to help you make the most out of your marriage! Call us at 623-606-8909 or visit our website


[ii] ibid

[iii] (See the book review for “A Case For Marriage”)




1 comment

  1. Mark Grisham says:

    Nicely said, John.

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